How to achieve your most ambitious goals?
I’ve been through Ups and downs in life - from making my first million at age 25 to losing all of those money at age 29. And then making 1 million two years later.
From my experience, I have realised some principles that allow me to achieve things beyond my widest dream and I have observed my mentors, who I spent 7 figures throughout the years to hire, and discovered some underlying commonalities to their success and achievements.
So in this article, I’m have selected 3 most undermined and seldom talked about secrets to how to achieve your most ambitious goal to share with you.
1. They overcome themselves.
"I have to make this profitable within six months".
" I will try this strategy. And if I don't become profitable in three months, this is not working for me And I will change another strategy until I find one that works for me."
The pressure of churning money forces us to become desperate in testing out strategies and changing from one to another, causing shiny object syndrome and we are always be looking for that magic pill that would make it work overnight.
But there is no magic pill in the world.
All the success that we've seen that is shining on the surface and seemed so easy and effortless has been made of many years of Hard work day and nights.
We don’t know the time effort, energy investment that others have made to make it successful.
We just want the same results without putting in the same investment, because we don’t know what is behind the scene.
Even if we have heard, we would have underestimated the struggle and the process that we need to go to in order to achieve the same outcome and result.
If I tell you to go on live stream to teach for an hour every day for five day next week, would you be able to do it?
" Well, I'm not good at speaking...."
"I'm not comfortable in front of the camera."
"I don't know what to say in that full hour."
"I will need more time to prepare for it." "What my family and friends see that ?it would be embarrassing."
You see all those excuses come out when an action item is needed to move things forward.
It's easier said than done. When we see other people's success, it would seem so effortless and easy. And we think we can do it too.
But when we actually do the work, we would know how much fiction and resistance there is. And how easy it is to abandon and give up.
The Successful, profitable group would do exactly what is needed to move things forward, even though that can be challenging to them, even though they may not like it, even though they may know feel the best when doing it.
They won’t wait for the perfect timing. They would adjust their mentality and do it anyway and do it when it is needed.
They won’t let themselves standing in the way of their success.
They overcome themselves.
2. Create and follow the process, result will come automatically
If you want to become a content creator or make money online, it is not enough to just think about the desired outcome : like making millions of dollars, like becoming famous or popular or like whenever you sell people would rush to pay you their credit card.
It's inevitable and natural to be incentivised and motivated by the desired outcome that we all want - richer, happier, flexible working tiime, More fulfillment etc
But the desired outcome wouldn't support us to stay in the course when things becomes difficult.
It won't support us to stick with the process until we make it because the desired outcome from where we are would be too remote.
In other words, from where we are, we can't see quite clearly what the desired outcome will look like for us.
We can see what it looks like for others, but it's still hard to imagine what it would be for us.
(note: We can, though, take the mindset practice and exercise, imagine and reinforce what it would look like for us,
but only a handful is sustainably doing this - again show that the desired outcome is NOT enough to get us through the day to day process, without which we are not getting the result)
And sometimes being mentally lazy we would just take what it looks like for others and apply it to ourselves.
Most likely that wouldn't be what we really want, which added a layer of remoteness (and reduced motivation to stick to the process).
Hence We fall into a vicious cycle of not being able to stick to the process. And therefore not being able to achieve the result at the end of the process.
So we all focus on the wrong thing (the desired outcome).
What we should be thinking about and paying attention to is how we can create and stick to the process, which will eventually bring us to the result that we want as long as we stick to the process.
That’s why You will find that in the probable learner, a big part of output would be focused on how to be consistent, how to stick with the process.
3 surrender the deadline
There are pressure to monetize.
We all want to get money fast, Make money fast and therefore, we become impatient.
Impatient is the greatest enemy in monetization.
The more impatient we are, the harder it is to make money to monetize because we are desperate.
When We are desperate, we make poor decisions. We don’t stick to our principle. We hustle more than we think ( The world it never lack of people who can hustle. The world is scarce of people who can think) .
We may be working hard here and there, but still it’s not moving things forward because we are in a spiral.
Impatient makes us easy to fall into traps of scams fraud, dishonesty.
The only way out is to surrender the deadline.
Forgot about the deadline when you force yourself to monetize, to be profitable within how many months.
Just Stick with the process, and knew that the process eventually will take you to the desired destination.
It’s just like when we go travel. We have a destination in mind, but we don’t set a time limit of "I need to reach there in one hour" when we dont know how far is that.
All we need to know is as long as we leave our home, as long as we go out going towards the right direction (ie creating and sticking with the process) , sooner or later, we will arrive at the destination.
Why set a deadline?
We are just setting ourselves up for disappointment, upset and losing confidence in ourselves, putting pressure on ourselves to be impatient and lowering our energy to becoming desperate to work with anyone who would pay us (even though that may not be the right person) .
There is no other real purpose of the deadline that I can think of, except for these horrible things that we do to ourselves.
Surrender the deadline.
And trust that it will work out as long as we are in the right direction.
Have a leap of faith.
Yours,
Connie
